Tattoo Removal Process – Week 4

Okay, the title of the post is a bit misleading — but we’re halfway between three weeks and four weeks, so I’m rounding up for the sake of simplicity.

It’s been exactly 23 days since I had my first laser tattoo removal treatment.  I thought that I’d not really notice anything, but as I said originally in the day one post, I did.  And I continue to notice it.

As I look at the tattoos on my arms now (I obviously can’t look at my back without a handful of mirrors or a camera), I can tell they’re still getting lighter.  Most noticeably, my right tattoo has spots where the red circle is almost transparent now, which is kind of astounding when you think about how I’ve only had a single treatment so far.

I’m pretty optimistic on what that means for the remaining nine treatments that I’ve already paid for through Disappearing Inc.  My next treatment is about a month from now, just before Christmas.  I look forward to being zapped and uncomfortable for a few days again and seeing what the second treatment does.

What I’ve learned between treatment one and now:

  • There are days when your skin will become extremely itchy.
  • Your skin will dry out — use lotion to stay hydrated.
  • You’ll obsess over seeing the lines fade day after day.
  • Your muscles will feel stiff from time to time and you may be uncomfortable if your tattoo is in a place that you rely on to sit.
  • Your shoulders (if you have tattoos there) ay feel like you’ve worked out at the gym a bit too hard.

All in all, I’m still glad I’ve started this process.  I wish it were a one and done thing, since the actual removal process isn’t exactly rainbows and puppies, but I’ll keep going and get it done.

Tattoo Removal Process – Day 1

I’ve had three tattoos on my body since I was 18 years old.  I turned 34 three weeks ago and I’m very clearly not the same person that I was 16 years ago.  I started on my 18th birthday with this little gem

Right Arm Tattoo

I figured “Hey, I’m a drummer. I’m a badass, let’s get a skull!”  The version of this that I picked out had “Rock & Roll” around it, too, but I asked for that to be removed.  The artist said he’d have not done the tattoo with the wording.  I wish, all these years later, that he’d have talked me out of putting this on my body at all.  It’s been on my upper right arm for over 16 years now.

Around a month later, my best friend at the time turned 18. So I did what any good friend does, I took him first to a strip club and then to a tattoo parlor — the same one I went to for my 18th birthday.  I got this gem:

Left Arm Tattoo

What’s the meaning of it? What does it symbolize?  Absolutely nothing. It symbolizes that I had $40 on me after I paid for John’s tattoo and this was the $40 tattoo I could afford.

Then it gets interesting from there.  I worked with the artist, who’s name I believe was Steven, to design a piece for my back. An epic piece of giant proportions and amazing color and design!  I loved it, so much!  I went in one day with the $1500 in hand ready to have it done, only to be told that there wasn’t enough time to get it all done that day.  18 year old me had no idea how long it’d take to do, so I left empty handed.

When I finally went back to do the piece, the artist felt bad and only charge me $100 for the entire session, which lasted close to 10 hours.  (I may be misremembering that total amount of time, but it was definitely over 8 hours because we got there at noon and left after dark.)

This beauty has been on my back since March (or April, I really can’t remember) of 1998

Back Piece

It’s tough to tell the scale of it from the crappy iPhone photo (I’m taking actual photos of the removal process with my camera and will post a gallery when that’s all done in about 18 months), but it’s from shoulder to shoulder and around 10″ tall.  It’s, according to the removal guy, Rob, the largest tattoo that he could do in a single sitting.

So there you have it, there’s the backstory on the tattoos and if you know me at all now, you know why I would want to have these removed.  They’re definitely not me.  The “Destination Unknown” still sort of describes me, but I have a pretty firm grasp on what I’m doing now and have a good idea of where I’ll end up in life.

I met with Rob, the owner and operator of Disappearing Inc (what an awesome name for this type of business, right?!) on September 28th, the day before my 34th birthday.  He answered all of my questions, gave me an estimate, showed me how the laser worked, and just chatted about the tattoos in general.  He was quite surprised to find out how old the two on my arms were, because they’re in such great shape.  Apparently being a shut in and hardly ever going out in the sun will keep your tattoos looking good longer, who knew!?

I scheduled my first appointment for October 19th (yesterday as of the day I’m writing this post) and went in for my first treatment.  I won’t lie, I was nervous — probably because I’d been stewing over how much it would hurt for three weeks after my consultation.  Despite what you read online about the process, pain is a subjective thing.  What hurts you may not hurt me and vise versa.

I sat down in the chair, took off my shirt and told Rob to do his work.  I will say that I didn’t go meet any other professionals in the area, I didn’t interview multiple companies or talk to a bunch of laser removal guys.  I met Rob and he was great, he knew his stuff and was an extremely nice guy. I didn’t need to look anywhere else.

Thankfully, that wasn’t just a ruse to get me to come in for a treatment during the consultation. Rob’s genuinely a really nice guy and having him talk to you during the entire process was quite helpful.  Having a conversation certainly helped keep your mind off the process.  For all three tattoos, it was around a 45 minute process, which is what he expected it to be.

During the process, he’d ask me if I was okay before moving on to the next tattoo.  He told me, before we ever started, that the back would hurt considerably more than the arms, which was what I was expecting.  I got the tattoos so long ago that I didn’t quite remember the exact amount of pain, but I knew the back was more substantial than the arms (and took a lot longer, too.)

So the all important questions that I know you’re dying to ask:

What does it feel like?

If you read anything about tattoo removal, you’ll probably read that it feels like someone snapping you with a rubber band.  A fair description, but not what I experienced.  To me, it felt more like being shocked by a 9 volt battery.  Which sounds pretty terrible, but it’s actually not.  The laser only hits you for a fraction of a second at a time and depending on what process you’re doing, it’ll either hit you once per second, twice per second of five times per second. (We did two per second on my arms and 5 per second on my back.)

The back was quite uncomfortable. Not because it hurts, but because your body’s natural reaction is to move away from something zapping you.  I had to, at times, tell my body to sit still and a few times thought “he’s gotta almost be done.”  At one point Rob said “we’re about halfway done” which was a nice surprise.  He gave me updates again when we had a third left and just about as we finished.

I wouldn’t say it’s painful, but it’s uncomfortable.  It’s not the best experience I’ve ever had in my lifetime, for sure, but I don’t imagine it’s much worse than getting the actual tattoo, either.

Once we were done, Rob hit me with the cooling hose (which is used to numb the area before the process starts) for a bit, to help soothe the skin.  My entire back and both uppers arms were swollen for most of last night.

How do you feel the day after?

Rob warned me that it’d feel like I had a sunburn, which is exactly what it feels like.  I was uncomfortable sitting on the couch most of last night, constantly squirming and trying to find a place that was less painful to press against my back.  Sleeping wasn’t great last night, either.

This morning I feel pretty okay.  Okay enough to put a shirt on today, anyway.  It’s still a little sore on my back, but less so on my arms.  It’s a dull sunburn pain right now and I’m sure if I put some aloe on or took some Advil, I’d feel considerably better. (Note to self: do that when you’re done rambling.)

Rob warned me that it’d be a couple of days before I felt back to good.

Do you notice a difference?

Rob warned me that I wouldn’t.  He said that many people that come in for their first treatment don’t come back because they don’t see a difference with the first treatment.  He said it’s quite uncommon to see a difference after a single treatment — but I do.

Little bits of color here and there are fading, some of the black lines are already fading and disappearing.

The really cool thing is that as the day went on yesterday, the tattoos seems to keep evolving.  It wasn’t an immediate “oh hey! that line is gone!” sort of thing.  Every time I looked in the mirror, I noticed a little bit of blurring on a different line and some more fading.

That’s not to say that you’d notice the difference if you just casually looked at it (that’ll take many treatments), but if I start hard enough, I can see where the ink is fading already. Which is promising.

What does it cost?

That was on my biggest question going in — and one that you’ll be hard pressed to find an answer to online.  Rob offers completely free (and extremely no pressure) consultations to look at your tattoos.  A lot of factors go into the pricing, such as your skin tone, the size of the tattoo, the depth of the ink, etc.  Having a professional look at it is the best way to find out the cost and how many sessions it’ll take.

For my three tattoos, which is around a total of 100 square inches (I think that’s the total we came up with), each session would be $450.  Which, yes, is a lot of money, I agree.

Rob, being as awesome as he is, gives you a discount if you prepay for sessions. If you pay for 5, you get 15% off. If you pay for 10, you get 25% off.  So, being me, I paid for the 10 sessions up front and saved $1125.  Worth it.

What’s next?

My next appointment is December 14th, where we’ll do the exact same thing again for the same 45 minutes.  After the second or third treatment, I should see more and more progress on the colors coming out of the skin.  I’m happy with the process after the first and can’t wait to see what happens after the next handful of treatments.

I’m taking some good photos after each process so I can document what it actually looks like each time (rather than just before and after shots) and will post a gallery when I’m all done with the entire thing.

If you’re considering going through this process and have any questions that you’re too scared to ask a professional or want an honest answer, feel free to ask in the comments.  I’m new to the process but am glad to answer anything I can.

I Love New Jersey!

Some plans got changed and scheduled rearranged, which freed me up to take a quick jaunt down to New Jersey with Megan this past weekend.  Her grandfather was turning 90 and she didn’t want to make the trip alone, so I ended up going with her.  I’d never actually been to New Jersey, so I figured why not.

The only previous experience I’d had with New Jersey was stopping at a rest stop a few years back, I’m guessing in Newark, and hated it.  It was smelly and slow and just an overall bad experience.

This time, however, was completely different.  I can honestly say after my short weekend there that I love New Jersey.

We stayed in a little beach town called Manasquan.  The hotel was about half a mile to the beach, which was convenient since the plan was to spend Friday there.  It was one of the nicest hotels I’ve stayed at in many years.  Normally I feel let down with a hotel because it’s so boring, but this one was quite nice.  It’s called Inn on Main (innonmainmanasquan.com) and I quite enjoyed it, including the little balcony we had and the fireplace.

Friday we headed to the beach and spent the day being lazy and enjoying ourselves.  Megan’s a big beach person, so she spent some time in the water while I laid under the gigantic umbrella/tent thing I bought, reading. The thought of salt water makes me want to vomit, but I went in for a little bit to appease her.

Friday night, once we’d showered and washed the salt water off ourselves, we went to Point Pleasant Beach, to one of the many famous boardwalks.  We played mini-golf and walked on the boardwalk, stopping to play games, have funnel cake for dinner, and eat ice cream.

Sadly, Megan somehow fractured her foot while we were there, so we had to cut things short.  The following morning we went to an urgent care facility and had some x-rays to confirm the diagnosis of OUCH.  Crutches, some pain pills, an ace bandage and 30 minutes later, we were on our way.

Her grandfather’s birthday party was later in the afternoon and since we’d decided to just head home early, we stopped by his house to say hello so it wasn’t a wasted trip.  Her mother and step-father were there, as well as some aunts and uncles and cousins, so they got to spend some time together before we left.

It was a long six hour drive home, getting stuck in traffic in almost every single state, but we made it home. Madison the cat was happy to see Megan, so that was good.

Reasons I love New Jersey:

  • Efficiency: everywhere I went was efficient.  The Dunkin Donuts was one of the fastest I’ve ever been to.  The urgent care facility had us in and out in about half an hour.
  • Polite people: everyone was so polite. From the waitresses where we ate, to the people on the beach, to the guy at the gas station.  Everyone was so polite.
  • The beach: I’m not big on swimming, but I love people watching and I got to do lots of that while we were there.
  • The little main street in Manasquan: I’ve always said I wanted to live in a little town where there’s a main street like in Pleasantville and this town had one.

There’s a bunch more reasons, but overall I loved it and you get the idea.  It was a great little vacation and I’m hopeful that I’ll get to go back at some point in the future!  Here’s some of the photos I took with my phone (the camera is still packed, but I’ll upload those eventually.)

Coming back from vacation sucks

For the first time in over five years I took a vacation.  From everything. From my full time job, from my freelance business, from it all.

I set up an out of office message, I did my best to not check email, and I didn’t answer my phone even once.  While terrifying, it was quite rewarding, too.

Friends in tow, we set out for a long weekend in Vegas.  Rental house and airfare booked months ago, I looked forward to enjoying some quality time with those I love, without worrying about what was happening back at home.

A short snafu with the cat sitter (where she didn’t show up and then got passive aggressive when we confronted her on it) started out the trip, but thanks to awesome friends, Madison the Cat was taken excellent care of. (Thanks Brian and Lauren!)

The trip was great, despite it being the “hottest weekend in 100 years” in Vegas — we had fun despite the desert-like temperatures.  Thankfully the house we rented had a pool, so we got to spend quite a bit of time there.  Most days were too hot to sit outside for an extended period of time, though.

We hit all the touristy things — the Bellagio fountains, the canals and shops at the Venetian, some gambling, the Stratosphere, the strip.  We made our way to the Hoover Dam on Sunday, as well, though we opted to skip the Canyon, ’cause it’s super far away.

Everything went great until the flight back to Boston, where Megan and I were flying US Airways. It started out great — I upgraded us to First Class, ’cause why not?  I’d never flown First Class before, so I figured why not.  Seats 1A and 1C were ours and we were right in the front of the plane.

The trouble started when we got to the airport in Vegas and found out that our flight out would be delayed.  In short — the air was too hot and the plane couldn’t fill up with fuel all the way because it’d have been too heavy to take off.

I called the US Airways hotline and was told that we’d miss our connecting flight, but no worries, they’d put us up in a hotel.  Not a problem, we’ll get home by 9 the next morning.

To double check, I went to the desk by our gate and was told the same thing — they’ll have new boarding passes in Philly (where our connector was) and they’ll put us up in a hotel.

Once we got on the plane (on time), the staff told us the same thing — we’d be stopping in Kansas City for fuel and that it’d take about 20 minutes.

What should have taken 20 minutes actually took closer to an hour and we knew for sure we weren’t going to make our flight in Philly.  I grabbed my laptop, fired up the wireless, paid the $16.95 and started chatting with my sister.  She awesomely called US Airways for me and confirmed that we wouldn’t make our connector but was assured that we’d get a hotel and were on the first flight out in the morning.

Not wanting to delay getting home any longer, we decided to rent a car from the plane.  No problem, we have a Zipcar membership! But we didn’t have the actual Zipcar card with us.  Bummer!  Again to chat with my awesome sister!

She called Zipcar from the ground and was assured that there’d be no problem not having the keycard and to just call when we got to the car.  She said they’d be able to help us get into the car once we got there and that it shouldn’t be a problem because they keep extra cards in the trunks.

Our flight was scheduled originally to get into Philly at 10:10 (our connector was at 10:45, plenty of time).  We actually landed in Philly at 11:31.

Being the first people on the plane, we got off pretty quickly and immediately got into line at the ticket desk where it was obvious that most people on our flight missed their connectors and despite being told by three separate US Airways employees, people were not offered hotel rooms.  After a few other customers yelled and screamed, I simply went up to the desk and said “I’ll be easy, I just want to cancel our connector. We’re going to drive, I’ve got a car waiting.”

No problem, I was told, just call this number.  Money back, not a problem.

From there we hiked through the airport to the Rental Car Shuttles.  It took close to an hour to get the one we needed, find the Zipcar lot, and get Zipcar on the phone.  The Agent we spoke to told us there’d be no problem, and that she’d unlock the car for us.  We just had to stand close enough so she could hear the horn honk.

Beep beep, it went.  She unlocked the door to find out there were no extra keys in the trunk and offered us the car next to it (smaller, less eco-friendly, and more expensive) which had keycards.

She first asked if we were close enough to home to go get our card.  We told her no and that we were driving from Philly to Boston, about 350 miles.  No problem, she said, drive safely.

We left Philly at 12:35am on Wednesday morning.

The GPS estimated that we’d be home in 6 hours.  Six hours would get us home before the flight from Philly was slated to leave and that made me happy.

4 hours 59 minutes was all it took.  A straight through drive with just two quick stops to use the bathroom in various states (I think New Jersey and Connecticut, if I recall.)

After a quick four hour nap, I called Zipcar to explain why we were late and asked where I could drop the car off.  Lo and behold, we learn that Zipcar doesn’t do one-way rentals. At all. Ever.  Wish the Agent we talked to 11 hours earlier had said that, I’d have gladly gone inside and rented a car from Avis or Budget or Enterprise or any of the other zillion car rental places with dozens of cars that can go one way.

After putting me on hold a number of times, confused, the Agent came back and said we’d have to get the car back to Philly.  She also said that we had no choice but to have it towed.  Fine, tow it, I’ll pay for it, I don’t care.

Once Megan and I talked it over, we decided it made more sense (financially) to just drive it back to Philly.  I didn’t mind, the drive wasn’t that bad. So we called Zipcar back and spoke to a different agent.

She informed us that it wouldn’t be a problem to drive the car bank and in fact thanked us for offering to do so!  Great!  She extended our reservation and informed us that we’d need to pay for the additional hours, mileage and some other penalties.  Not a problem, it was our fault for not reading the back of the card about one-way rentals. (Don’t get me started on the fact that it doesn’t say that anywhere on the reservation confirmation I got…)

I hung up with Zipcar, went to my computer, and booked a flight home from Philly at 9:30 that night. I figured that’d give me enough time to gas up the car, drive back, and make my way back to the US Airways gate.

Wallet, keys, cell phone, sunglasses and Bruins hat in tow, I made my way back to the parking lot to head back to Philly.  Another surprise is that the car doesn’t unlock.

So we call Zipcar again.  This time we’re told that our membership has been rescinded, we’re no longer members, and we have no option but to have the car towed back.  Interesting, that’s not what we were just told.  I asked to speak to a Manager who told me the same thing — we’re out of luck.

I tried explaining that we booked non-refundable airfare to get home based on the misinformation given to us by an Agent of their company.  Again, basically told to go shit in a hat (for lack of a better term.)

I was told I could try speaking to the local Boston office, so I called and spoke to Kristin, the Zipcar employee working on our situation.  I explained what happened, but she just kept talking over me, citing that it was our fault that we didn’t bring the car back, and how we inconvenienced all of the other customers that reserved that car for the day.  I don’t deny that it was our fault, but this woman was just flat out rude.

She again informed me that they weren’t allowing us to drive the car back and that they’d come and get the car.  We’d be responsible for the fees to return the car.  I asked her to ballpark that fee, which she wouldn’t.  “We’ll either tow it, drive it back, or put it on a flatbed” was the best she could tell me.  (We also contacted independent tow companies and found prices ranging from $300-$500 for the tow.)

When asked what they’d do about the airfare I booked based on the previous Agent telling me I could drive the car back, she said “I’m sorry, we’re reviewing that call.”  I’ve worked in enough call centers to know bullshit when I hear it, but I let that go.  I knew that they’d do nothing, because I’m just one measly ex-customer.  What did they care if I was inconvenienced?  I’d already screwed over the other people who tried to rent that car today.  (Mind you, not even the car I originally reserved via Zipcar’s website!)

Around 2pm on Wednesday the 3rd, someone from Zipcar came and took the car.  They didn’t knock, they didn’t call, and despite the company saying that they’d tell us the cost before the car was taken, we heard nothing.

Here we are now, nearly 6 days later, Monday the 8th.  We’ve heard not a single word from Zipcar since.  No contact. No emails. No communication of any kid.  We just see an empty spot where their rental car once sat, waiting, wondering.  I’m astounded at the breakdown of communication all of a sudden.  Was I in the wrong in driving the car one way? Yes, I was.  For a service we’d used precisely once before, we had no idea that was a no-no.  Could it have been handled better on their end? Sure, I don’t doubt that.

Should the initial Agent that unlocked the car told us we couldn’t drive to Boston? Yes.
Should the second Agent that I called to ask where to return the car have told me what the price to tow the car would have been? Yes.
Should the third Agent have told me I could drive the car back when I couldn’t? No.
Should the fourth Agent had been so rude in telling me it was “too bad” that I booked airfare based on what Agent three told me? No.
Should the Manager I spoke with been understanding and allowed me to return the car myself? Probably.
Should Kristin in the Boston office had been a little more understanding and listen to what I was actually saying? Yes.
Should I have known that I couldn’t drive a Zipcar one way? Probably.
Would I ever use Zipcar again even if my membership wasn’t revoked? Not even a chance.

So that’s it. That’s the story of how US Airways and Zipcar lost my business, oh and how we almost melted in the Vegas sun.

All in all, a good vacation. Getting there was rocky (with not knowing someone would take care of Madison the Cat) and the trip home sucked (with the airline lying about the hotel and the car snafu), but overall it was nice to get away.

Now if all the email in my inbox would just respond to itself, I’d be a happy guy.

Farewell.

When your phone rings at 10pm on a Sunday night, and it’s your mom, you know it’s usually not good news.  That was the case last Sunday, a week ago today.  My phone rang at 9:59pm, and I knew before I even answered that it wasn’t good news.

Mom told me that my grandmother, who we affectionately referred to as Weezie, had passed.  She’d been sick for about a year and a half, but even so, you never expect it.

Through tears, Mom told me that she’d passed earlier that evening. And while initially sad, I was also relieved.  Everyone always tries to console you when you lose someone who was ill by saying “at least she’s not in pain anymore”, and it’s usually bullshit.  But in this case, it was actually true. Once the initial shock wore off, I knew that she really had moved on to a better place, and she wasn’t hurting anymore.

Due to some schedule issues with the extended family, we had to push the wake out until Friday.  I got there half an hour before it was supposed to start and met with my aunts and uncles and their respective other halves, my Mom and her husband Walter.  The Priest was there and gave the initial blessing, as we all stood around soggy-eyed.  It was tough to be there, but it was good in a way.  Not so much because it felt like we got closure or got to say goodbye, but because we got to see how many people really loved her.

Weezie had turned 86 on May 3rd, two days before she passed, and I found out at the funeral yesterday that she’d lived in Arlington for her entire life.  You can imagine that over 86 years and living in one place, you tend to meet a lot of people.  And they all came out to say goodbye.

The photos from the 40s and 50s of her were amazing.  She looked so beautiful on her wedding day, which I forgot to ask someone when that was, with her father who I never met (he passed before I was born.)  Photos spanning her entire life were spread across the funeral home, illustrating not just what an amazing woman she was, but how many people loved her, and how many lives she touched.

At first I found it odd that there were no pictures from when she was a baby.  But I realized that it’s likely due to the fact that cameras were expensive in the 20s, and I doubt my great-grandparents had the money to have one.  The first pictures of her were from her teenage years.

Seeing my grandfather (who arguably wasn’t the greatest guy to my grandmother or any of my aunts and uncles) in the wedding photos was a trip.  He’s been gone for nearly 16 years now, and seeing him in his prime made me flash back to Good Fellas.

Saturday morning meant the funeral, which was admittedly tougher than the wake.  When I arrived at the funeral home at 8:30 (half an hour before it was slated to start), I was the only one there.  I had the opportunity to sit down and say my farewell to Weezie, just the two of us.  I thanked her for doing such a great job raising my mom and her brothers and sisters, virtually on her own.  I thanked her for making delicious Italian food every Sunday when we’d come visit throughout my childhood.  I thanked her for letting me stay at her house on January 21st, 1990 so I could watch the Royal Rumble.  Thanks to Uncle Franky’s magic “black box”, I watched the Royal Rumble that year for free at Weezie’s.  I thanked her for always being positive, no matter how many crappy things happened in her life.  She truly was an amazing and inspirational woman, and was without a doubt my favorite grandparent.

While still sad that she’s gone, I’m relieved and happy.  Happy to know that my favorite grandparent got to live the longest, and got to be the biggest part of my life.  She watched most of her grandchildren get married.  She watched some of them have their own children.  And now she rests in the back corner of Mount Pleasant Cemetery, just a few hundred yards from where she lived for the last few decades.  Quietly in the back corner, under a row of trees, a beautiful plot.

We all bid farewell in our own ways.  Some people tossed flowers on the casket, some people knelt and prayed, some people kissed the casket.  I stood by the head of the casket after the service was over, and watched people say their goodbyes.

Flowers were tossed on top. My uncles touched the casket, and choked back tears. My mom and her sisters took flowers from around the casket, to keep and dry out.  Before I left, I solidly placed my hand on her casket, and said goodbye, whispering that I loved her and thanked her for a great life.  I took one red rose from the bunch by my left foot.  Rather than placing the the rose on top, where it’d surely be swept off as they lowered the casket into its final resting place, I snuck it in underneath.  There was a slight gap between the casket and the device that lowers it into the ground.  I slid the rose into the gap and watched as it fell into the hole, where it’d find a home under where her casket would lay for all eternity.  The expression “six feet under” never rang so true — it seemed to take minutes for the rose to hit the bottom.

It’s been a long and emotional week and one that I’m glad is over.  I’ll miss Weezie for many years to come, and hope that wherever she is, wherever she ends up, she’s peaceful.